Dear Maria:

You shared earlier: “I get very nervous when someone tries to flirt with me and tries to get intimate. I feel uncomfortable, I get worried if I look awkward, if I kiss bad.. I always escape those scenes”, and today, when a boy who fit most of your criteria asked you to be his girlfriend on your 18th birthday: “I was uncomfortable and scared of kissing, didn’t know how to act.. I was worried what people would say of me. I feared of being judged if I ‘showed’ myself.. something that I have a hard time but only in relationships”-

– reads to me that you have a great discomfort and fear of showing yourself in the context of physical/ sexual contact with a young man, as in kissing.

What do you mean specifically by showing yourself?

And what were you taught by your family, mother or father, about showing yourself and about sex? (this latter question may make you uncomfortable. If so, you can choose to not answer it at all, or to answer it without the details that make you feel most uncomfortable).

anita