Yes. When we started to talk, i realized our lives were a kind of mirror. Our very first year at university was chaotic (none of us wanted to be where we were), we tried another study path before finally finding the good one, we worked for one year in a very similar area. Our relation with our mothers is complicated (less for me now tho, with time finally came peace). We related a lot about many things in our lives and in our behaviors.

” You are fascinated by who he is underneath his appearance, by his undefined true self that is aching with desire to burst out and assert itself in the world, as in: here I am! This is who I am! Am I correct, you have that true self inside you, aching with desire to be seen, heard and known?”. I guess so. I don’t want to be seen for what i represent. I’m not considered as a “social” outsider but, i’m more than this “good girl”. And just like for him, people tend to stop to what they see because they don’t need more to “understand” what and who i am. With him i felt i could finally be seen as just like me he wanted to be seen for his trueself.