Dear Mel, 

  I definitely agree with Anita.  I am 

sorry you had such a horrible 

experience. What F did to you was

wrong. Your parents reaction and

conduct was wrong. Your therapists

answer is hard to understand. 

   Don’t deny what happened. 

What other people think or say 

is not relevant.  You know the truth. 

Denial will just muddy your thinking 

and possibly make you think it was 

your fault.  It was not. 

    You should probably continue 

working with a therapist, just not 

that one. Get the truth clear in

your head so you won’t keep 

second guessing yourself. Then 

you’ll know how you want to 

proceed in future relationships. 

    It wasn’t you. It was him.

Good luck. 

Mike