Dear Noor:

Being surrounded by mountains and a beautiful lake reads peaceful, and my advice to you this morning has to do with promoting that peace in your mind, so that you can carry those serene mountains and lake with you wherever you go.

I think that the present is the right time for you to start dating if you don’t rush it. No reason to wait longer before you start dating because the dating itself will take a long, long time.

“As much as I miss having a romantic companion, I am enjoying my new freedom of being single since I am re-discovering parts of me that got lost in that past relationship, and I genuinely am worried about if that happens again because of a new relationship”- if you rush, it is likely to happen again. Even if you meet a wonderful man, if you rush, you will lose that peace of mind I mentioned earlier.

If you do not rush (I can’t emphasize this enough), you will be discovering parts of you in the context of dating. You will find out things about yourself you don’t know yet. How exciting this could be!

There is no point in you waiting another year, or two, or ten and then rushing. Start dating now and pace yourself, slowly.. keeping your peace of mind, learning gradually about this or that man and about yourself. Don’t dive into a relationship before you learn enough, it will be like diving into a lake not knowing how deep it is- what if it is shallow, you can get hurt!

anita