Another thought or two. Sometimes this kind of stuff feels like disrespect. We have told the other person and they continue to disregard our needs, wants, life perimeters, call it whatever we want. If we can look at this person and see who they really are, we can then decide if their personality issues work for us. Sometimes we have to give in a little and sometimes yes, we have to stand our ground. Some things are a deal breaker. A disrespectful, self absorbed person is not a good life partner. Maybe we feel that the behavior of the other person is something we need permission to stand our ground about. Sometimes we doubt ourselves. Sometimes maybe we want to deny behaviors that stare us in the face. I have done all of this and found the other person doesn’t change just because I find their behaviors problematic. I have a female friend who does odd stuff like tell several of us we are going to lunch with just her and then a bunch of us show up to find the group, and no one knew the group was attending. We all like each other but all of us looked at each other stunned, and no one laughed at the “joke”. My friend finds this amusing, I find it creepy. This is who she is but the last time she pulled a bait and switch, I said I didn’t like that place to eat at and would catch them another time. It felt right to do what was best for me but it doesn’t make me happy to have to set boundaries like this. I like my friend but she isn’t trustworthy. Many people will give in to us when we need giving in to about various things as perhaps they are “other centered”, but some people just don’t have the bandwidth or capability to do this as perhaps they are “self centered”. Doesn’t mean we can’t like them to a certain degree, doesn’t mean they are bad people. But the stuff that feels disrespectful has a way of becoming a pretty big issue in any relationship.