Dear anita,

It’s okay to find my writing difficult to understand. Like most people these days, I’m fluent in GRAMMARLY (ha ha). I’ve been told I need to improve my writing. So now should be a good place to start.

Allow me to simplify.

1. “My dad wouldn’t be considered a ‘broken man.’” If you ask any person walking on the streets if he’s stable or not, most people would say he’s got a good head on his shoulders. People that know him would clearly tell he’s not perfect. (But then again, who is?) But he’s like “most people.” By that I mean he laughs, he cries, he gets angry, confused, etc.

2. “I’d really be the one more focused on his flaws than him”. His marital history is something I’m clearly focused on. To be honest, I don’t think about his drinking that much. And I focus on how much he controls my mom. To be honest, the more I think about it, the less I focus on his bad personality traits. And more I think about how he really is a decent guy.

3. “I like the idea of ‘broken men’ given the chance to open up and love again”. He doesn’t have to have been married before. Or have children from his past relationships. It’s that most middle aged men are divorced and have children with an ex wife.   Sadly, more people have had failed relationships than successful ones. While they function just fine, inside they have feelings of hurt and regret. So it would be nice to heal the hurt inside. And yes, I would like to be in a relationship with a middle aged man.

Suzanne.