Dear Laelithia:

“Cognitively I understand how silly a notion this is, but it is so tantalizing to me that I expand all resources at that moment to ensure the budding relationship continues when in reality, I feel this is the behavior that probably turns men off and destroys my little fantasy”-

– there is a seemingly small correction I want to make to this sentence which is really, a huge correction: it is not your behavior that destroy your little fantasy, it is reality that destroys your fantasy. Reality destroys Fantasy, not your behavior.

This means that there is no fantasy except in your imagination. You can’t destroy a fantasy any more than you can make it come true.

anita