Dear Alisha:

Yes, I remember you shared some of this with me earlier, must have been a couple of years, I don’t know. I hope you are able to help your mother with house chores, and maybe you can work part time and bring some income home,  make your home a better place this way?

It is better that you focus on practical ways to make your home life better than spending all your time online.

As far as your ROCD thinking- I have no solution to that, no way anyone can quiet down obsessive thinking by giving you advice online. You can post for years here or on any other forum: do I love him/ do I not love him? And you will not be satisfied with any one of a thousand, or ten thousand answers you may get. Obsessions are not satisfied with answers.

It takes long term psychotherapy and sometimes it takes medication to weaken and stop obsessive thinking.

If you are about to go back to school next month, seek counseling in school, look for free community resources for mental health outside of school, that’s where help is.

You are welcome to keep posting here. If I feel that I can answer a question you ask, I will. But I will not try to answer obsessions.

anita