Dear Michelle:

Unconditional love- a young child loves the parent/s unconditionally, no matter how the parents look like, sound like, and no matter how kind or cruel they are- because the child is dependent on the parent.

Parents should love their children unconditionally, but unfortunately for the children, often- they don’t.

In the context of romantic relationships, unconditional love is.. well, up to a point. You want to love your partner even if he gains some weight or gets old or.. is not in a good mood one day. But you don’t want to love your partner if he cheats on you, or beats you up, or verbally abuses you… or repeatedly ignores you and doesn’t care to make an effort to be there for you.

“I think he feels that I removed my love..”- two days ago, Aug 12, you wrote: “he just told me today that he is sorry he can’t return my feelings”, can’t return your loving feelings, I understand- so is he upset that you removed the love that he can’t or won’t reciprocate?

anita