Dear Suzanne:

You are welcome and thank you for your empathetic reply to me.

“It feels wrong to be attracted to older men. But it still feels so… irresistible”- when feelings are intense, they are very powerful, they move us to action. Another word for a feeling is emotion: e-motion, or energy in motion. It is literally energy that moves us to perform this or that action.

Emotions in themselves are neither good nor bad: they don’t have a  moral value. But our actions do have moral values when they have the potential to hurt or to help people.

You are considering having a sexual relationship with a man who is as old as 60, while you are 21. What is the moral value of this behavior?

The older man, in his 50s or at 60, being sexual with a 21 year old woman (only three years removed from being an illegal activity)- what is his motivation: having a companion to grow old with so to not be lonely, to exchange thoughts and life experiences, to keep each other healthier by eating healthier and exercising together… or is his motivation to experience the thrill of using a young, hot body sexually?

He knows that what he is doing is wrong, he knows the girl he is with has emotional problems, and yet, he is willing to take advantage of her, to use her mental troubles for his own selfish,  sexual thrill-

– Is this the kind of man that you want to have a relationship with; is a man of your dreams?

The title of your thread is “Daddy issues”- but I am not clear about what you mean by it. Can you define this term as it applies to you, giving me a dictionary like definition: not long, and as precise as possible?

anita

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