Lothar,

That’s NOT an old friend.

That’s someone you cared about 34 yrs ago.

If it were a friendship, you would have stayed in touch through the years, sent Christmas cards, got to know each other’s families.

This was a brief relationship, 34 yrs ago. You were friends then.

Completely different people now, so it would be very surprising if she responded to you-now a stranger.

Did you mention to your wife you were attempting this reunion of sorts?

She definitely might not remember you after 34 years & there’s no real reason she would. Sounds like you’ve romanticized this. Life moves forward, you should too. And seriously consider why you are attempting to re-kindle this connection.

Talk to your wife before this gets bigger.

-my 2 cents.