Dear Lula:

“He cares about me a lot”- he cares about you a lot, yet you suffer so much, and he doesn’t know that you suffer, or doesn’t want to know.. ?

“It’s not like he did this all  intentionally to hurt me!”- but he did hurt you and he still does. The hurt needs to stop, intentionally or not.

When you asked him how can he talk to you like this when he has a girlfriend, he answered “that love is in the heart, and these ar3e just talks, I ain’t doing this in real with you”- this sounds like he is saying that he is aware that he is talking inappropriately with you, as a man who has a girlfriend, but it doesn’t count as cheating on his girlfriend, because he doesn’t have sex with you. In other words, he is okay with cheating on his girlfriend as long as it doesn’t involve sex (sex= “doing this in real with you”).

“He never thought of my side that I could be the one getting hurt too?”- I don’t know if it never occurred to him that you get hurt, or that he doesn’t care that you are hurt.

“Idk if I should tell him all this story and ruin this friendship or hurt myself in silence just like always!!”-

– Please don’t hurt yourself in silence- that is definitely the wrong choice.

Talk  with him, tell him how you feel, break your silence. Ruining a friendship that is hurting you so much is not a bad thing. Better ruin it.

If you do talk to him, let me know what he says, will you?

anita