Dear Elise:

An honest understanding of your non-sexual motivation will help you to no longer “feel like a terrible person” (the title of your thread), so it is definitely worth a try.

You shared that when you were about 8-11, you witnessed “a lot of arguments and animosity” between your mother and your grandparents. You were close to your grandmother and your mother suspected, or accused you of siding with your grandmother, of “telling her things”.

I need more about the “arguments and animosity”- what were (examples of) the words, the tone of voice, the body language, the acts that constituted that animosity?

Was that animosity done by your mother against your grandmother, or was it mutual, done by both?

anita

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