Thanks Anita, this gave me something to think about. More than being concerned with how I can change his feelings etc. I want to be aware of what i’m feeling and why. That thought of why someone else might have an intense feeling that is related to a childhood wound makes a lot of sense to me. I try not to gaslight myself when I have a really strong sense about something but I at the same time am also trying to separate my feelings from other people’s feelings. Sometimes when I can’t do that I just feel overwhelmed by an emotion I picked up from them one or two times it is really helpful for me to seek to understand it a bit. I feel like it’s becoming less of a strong emotion the longer I am in relationship with him. But it bugs me I can’t ‘let it go’ I guess or release it as just something that is his to deal with in his own time… I don’t know lot of thoughts. Thanks for taking the time to connect with me. Looks like you do this for lots of people and bring a lot of comfort.