Also, I just thought about it, he has plenty of female friends from whom he’s very close. Why would I be different from those girls then? Why would I trigger his anxiety while these girl friends no? I mean, after all the time we spent talking, we can’t talk about  simple polite conversations anymore. After all he was the one who wanted to “see me but in a more casual way”

EDIT: Ok yes I think I understand, he wanted to see me in a more casual way because he was getting triggered. I didn’t understand that when he first told me it and tried to explain, so I low-key pushed the relation in a way he wasn’t comfortable at all and he didn’t dare openly expressing the fact that he had anxiety (I can understand, when you meet someone new, this isn’t really what you want to show at first) and so. He stopped the “giving a try” not because he didn’t like me but because as I spent my time (involuntarily, well at least I hope) triggering his anxiety and because I didn’t understand before why he wanted to see me in a “casual way”, he didn’t have the choice to stop everything. Right? Now we are still talking, because not only he “values” me but also we are finally in the casual situation he wanted since the beginning and it fits into what he feels the most comfortable. He’s not ready but like my friend says “he wants you in his life” and that casual situation he wanted, is his way to build the trust before engaging himself into something serious. While my pattern and the one from all my past relationships was the following one: we meet someone, we date and at the same time we build the trust within the relationship (in the big lines). Or am I overthinking it?

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