Dear Indebt:

You are welcome.

“he said he wants to try and help himself first”- he will have a lot of helping himself to do in the context of professional help; quality professional counseling/ psychotherapy requires the client to help himself!

It is not just about him needing help- you need help too. Once he told you that he had “bad thoughts”, but refused to tell you what those were, and you asked him if it is similar to a mother thinking about harming her baby, and he said yes- naturally you would think (as I would in your place) that he is thinking about harming you.

Because he told you what he told you, and he can’t un-tell it, he owes you to go to a medical doctor, a psychiatrist, for an initial evaluation, like I suggested in my earlier post to you.

It is not necessarily that he suffers from OCD or from the unmedical term Pure O. If you are not aware of him being significantly obsessive in the past- it may  be that his “bad thoughts” are not a part of OCD. There are people who did not suffer from OCD, who had “bad thoughts” and proceeded to put those bad thoughts into action, and there are examples of those in court cases.

anita