Dear gemsandrubies:

You are welcome. Good to read that you are taking good, compassionate care for your mind, body and spirit, and that you are celebrating life, trying a few new things, and with new people: writing and creating music with a new band (and writing otherwise), training for your first half marathon, new friendships.

“I was always very anxiously attached in this relationship, more than I have been in any other”- I imagine that in addition to the hurt and anger over having been left and betrayed, you are also feeling relief about being out of a relationship where you felt very anxiously.

Regarding the advice you asked for, how to move on from the hurt and anger, other than what you are already doing (self care, writing and creating, new interests, new friendships): if you are still in contact with any of the two women, and if you follow their social media and such contact stirs up your hurt and anger, maybe you should end contact with them in person and via social media.

anita