Dear Holly:

You wrote today, regarding  your parents: “I am an only child but I do not remember them ever putting pressure to get perfect grades or anything”.

Three months ago, on your first thread, you wrote: “I grew up in a very impatient household“- impatience means pressure, as in: hurry! faster! They didn’t pressure you perhaps to get good grades, but they greatly pressured you in some ways, somehow.

I asked you today if you are anxious outside of work, and you answered, “It’s mainly work that worries me”. Back in June you were worried/ anxious about your relationship, and you wrote at the time about your boyfriend: “He never worries or stresses out the way I do”- meaning you are inclined to get stressed out outside of work, as I understand it.

You wrote back then: “He asked me to give him patience till end of the year, so I plan to give him that”- I think that the “very impatience household” you grew up in, which I assume means that your parents were very impatient with you , and/ or with each other, has a lot to do with your current work related worries/ the pressure you feel to not make any mistakes.

An example of a possible connection between your parents’ impatience and your fear of making mistakes: let’s say your parents pressured you to get ready to school quickly- that meant that you didn’t have time to make any mistakes, you had to perform all tasks perfectly so to be ready quickly, and not to be criticized by them.

What do you think about what I wrote here?

anita