Dear Shannon:

What you brought up takes more than a single exchange between us to figure it out, it will take a longer exchange. If you are willing, let’s make it happen-

You suggested that maybe you are “fearful upsetting the person who thinks you to be so wonderful”, meaning you are afraid to upset your husband who keeps telling you in so many ways, that you are wonderful.

In your response to the other member’s post, you seem to agree with the member, that your husband may be “walking on eggshells, running in a hamster wheel, always trying to keep (you) in nice mode sot he fire dragon stays hidden… juggling because (you are) difficult to live with”- meaning, your husband might be trying to keep your bipolar “dragon” hidden by doing the household chores, by finishing the projects you start and then abandon, etc.

But if he is walking on eggshells, running in a hamster wheel, juggling, trying to keep a fire dragon hidden, and you are “miserable…suffer tangible symptoms (weeping, weight gain, nail-biting)”-

– then how is it possible that he, being stressed, walking on eggshells and running in a hamster wheel, and you, being miserable and anxious,  have endless great conversations and laughter every single day (“We talk and talk and talk all day, every day. For 32 years.. there’s never been a day we haven’t had a laugh or a great conversation”)???

anita