Dear Gregory:

Good to read from you every time. And it is good to read that you show and tell your son that you love him and that you are so glad to be his father (“being a special son is one of the best thing ever”). It means so much to him to see, in your eyes, in your face; and to hear in your voice and in your words- that you feel good that he is your son, that you are fortunate to be his father, that he is good news in your life, that he is a good person and it makes you feel good to be his father.

You shared that Christopher Agoth Gregory will turn 4 next month. He did not have a mother ever since he was 1. The woman who gave him birth (M2) said that she thinks of him as an aborted child, and her mother (M1) said that she does not want to see him in the future. Like I suggested to you before, no longer tell him that he will see M1 in the future, don’t feed his hope to see her.

Fact is he doesn’t have a mother. So over time, gradually, help him understand that not every child has a mother, but it’s okay to not have a mother when you have a good father. A child is okay if the child has one good parent.

“Our son doesn’t eat properly, what do you think can be good for him?”-

I don’t know what “doesn’t eat properly” means, can you explain his behavior in regard to food and eating?

anita