Dear WestCoastGal:

Nov 26: “He is the first guy I’ve dated in years who I see a future with”.

Nov 27, you wrote: “I’m 38 and still would like to have kids if possible, along with marriage. I do see him as that in the future, I just don’t want to wait forever”.

Nov 27, I wrote to you: “I think you will need to make it clear to him, almost casually.. that you really want to get married and have children… What do you think?”

Nov 30: “So I had a few days to think about this and think I’m ok with being patient. However, now I can’t get out of my  head that now, I’m realizing I’m not that physically attracted to him.. Part of me wonder if I’m just looking for things to be wrong, because I have a tendency to  do that in relationships”.

My input/ question today- you shared nothing about your childhood, so the following possibility is only a possibility for you to consider and let me know if there is any truth to it: it is possible that when you were a child, the marriage between your parents was not a good marriage, things were wrong, and you were uncomfortable witnessing their relationship. Any truth to it?

anita