Dear Leanne:

You are very welcome. I will probably reply more at length to your recent post later, but for now, a couple of thoughts:

1. Going back to nursing school is probably a good idea.

2. From my life experience, including communicating with many hundreds of people in these forums, the chance that you will lead him to undo his emotionally incestuous relationship with his mother is miniscule, I would say- almost non existent. To undo it- he will have to be aware that it exists (that his relationship with his mother is indeed unhealthy/ emotionally incestuous), and then he will have to seek therapy and do all the work required over a long period of time while changing or terminating his relationship with his mother.

Connecting 1 and 2- it makes way, way more sense for you to invest your time, money and energy in nursing school than in him. If you graduate from nursing school, you can get a high paying job and help thousands of people; if you invest in him- you will end up exhausted and frustrated, and with nothing to show for all your time and spent energy.

anita