Again, thank you so much for taking the time to reply, Anita…

Yes, I agree, positivity, independence, and intelligence are all traits that I need in a woman and a partner. She was…refreshing after a year of solitude and a focus on improving myself. Perhaps it was foolish on our part to contemplate a relationship when we will work in the same office when we inevitably return to the office after the pandemic wanes. While we connected well on the office’s instant messaging chat, it wasn’t until we were in person that the chemistry became palpable. A kiss, while not anticipated, felt inevitable at the end of the date.

While I agree with my counselor that opening myself up to this woman and be vulnerable, it seems that’s all it will be. While I understand and accept that anyone has a right to change their mind about a relationship (in any form) at any time, the “radio silence” kind of stings. She texted and called nearly every day for weeks, but she has gone mostly quiet since our dinner non-date last Thursday (after sending that text I shared above). We had another great time, so I don’t know why we stopped chatting. Perhaps it is to protect herself, or maybe I came on too strong? I don’t know. The non-date dinner ended with a hug and I made no attempt for anything more. It is just odd and has me conflicted. Maybe the fear of dating or socializing with a coworker made her erect these walls? Maybe she wasn’t ready to let anyone get close after her divorce in Jan?

It’s just disappointing and a bit sad because I found her so stimulating and our conversations so effortless and easy. 🙁