Dear Kay:

You are very welcome. You wrote that you are too scared to talk to him about it being an exclusive relationship with him.

There was another time you were very scared to talk to a guy- it was September 3 this year. On that day, you sent me the short text message you were thinking of sending him: “.. the other day I saw you with a woman and I would like to know who she was..”.

I then suggested some changes to the message, and you posted back: “I asked him, and at the beginning he pretended he did not know what I was talking about, then he said he was in a complicated/ open relationship with that woman”.

And I posted back to you: “Good job asking him! I am impressed with you, that you asked him even though you were afraid. Well, you got an answer..”

Notice: you were afraid to ask him the question you wanted to ask, but you asked even though you were afraid, and you got the answer to your question.

How about repeating your Sept 3 success in December 9: I can help you put together a message, you can then send it and wait for an answer…?

anita