Dear Unloveable:

You made mistakes, yes, and you will make more mistakes in the future: we all do, we can’t be perfect, but we can try to become better and better people.

You made your mistakes but your  boyfriend made his mistakes. It is about learning from our mistakes, and doing our imperfect best to not repeat. When we do these two things- we earn self-forgiveness.

When you notice next that your boyfriend made a mistake, you can help him to learn what he can learn from his mistake and then help him forgive himself- you will be able to help him this way because you will have the practice. So please, practice what I just suggested to you.

anita