Thank you so much for response and insight. I really appreciate it. I have tried to learn why he is the he is..I discussed his childhood with him, wasn’t the greatest. I figured he had to go deep within and figure out and deal with the root cause. His parents separated, father remarried and he lived with his father’s parents and later on lived with father and step mother.. step mother wasn’t very nice to him and his father was very religious . His whole family were religious and followed certain beliefs and they scared him and instilled a lot of fear in him regarding those beliefs..it’s like he was living in a box. He agrees that certain beliefs are crazy and he admitted the fear they instilled in him…yet, he doesn’t seem to want to let go of it. He  identifies himself with his religion. So it seems like he will never change as long he holds on to this.