Dear Kay:

“At the beginning he was extremely nice.. I really miss him being nicer, but maybe this more neutral person is his real self or maybe what I created with my indifference”- it is possible that he reacted to your apparent indifference by emotionally distancing himself from you.

“In all the time I have been with him, I have not seen him angry, which honestly scares me, because I do not know how he will be when angry, maybe he yells or he is aggressive”- maybe you did see him angry, but you didn’t notice because his anger does not express itself in yelling and other aggressive behaviors. Maybe his anger expressed itself in this facial muscles getting a bit tighter, or in his tone of voice getting lower- subtle changes.. (?)

“I do  not know if I would call him my boyfriend. How am I supposed to know?”- You can ask him but you may not believe his answer if he tells you that he considers himself to be your boyfriend, just as you didn’t believe him when “he said he was not seeing other people”-

– what would be best is if you did your part trying to communicate with him a bit more, just a bit.. a small beginning to start with… What do you think?

anita