Dear Explorer:

Your last relationship “ended horribly”, you wrote, and in your new relationship you are “often annoyed.. unhappy”, questioning the relationship.

“Do I have unresolved issues from my last relationship?”- yes, it reads like it to me.

“How can I gain clarity about my feelings? I don’t know how I am supposed to feel”- you are not supposed to feel any particular way. It will help if you become more aware of your feelings as they are. You can explore your feelings in quality psychotherapy, if such is available to you.

Horrible (in “ended horribly”) is a heavy word that requires exploring. If you want to elaborate on it, please do, and I will reply to you further.

anita