Dear Katie:

I too have experience with inconsistent people, particularly my own mother. After (however many times) that she directed her anger at me so badly..  no matter how nice she was in between those explosions, no matter the expensive gifts she bought me, delicious food she cooked for me.. nothing made me feel okay anymore, I was too scared of the next time she gets angry.

Hunter the beagle, our neighbors’ dog who has been visiting us daily for years, he always wags his tail when he is here, even though he is an anxious dog. Sometimes he is more anxious than other times, more impatient.. sometimes he barks a lot.. but he always wags his tail,  never expresses any  aggression against me.

anita