Dear Michelle:

I still didn’t read all of your recent post, but I wanted to tell you this: you and I have something in common- we both like to analyze, a lot. I may have confused you with my analyses, and you may not be open for more of those colors of the rainbow, as you put it (vs. black and white thinking).. thing is, bottom line,  it does come down to a black and white consideration: is this man good for you, or bad for you?

I say, regardless of how loving he feels for you, in this or that context, regardless of his struggles- you need a man who will love you in all contexts, a man whose love for you will be a good thing for you, something that builds you up, not a kind of … love that drains you and breaks you. This man we are discussing, is not good for you. This is my  black-and-white conclusion. Let me know if you want to communicate with me further. If not- I wish you well.

anita