Dear Kay:

You are welcome. “I think I am a magnet for that kind of men”- there are so many men who are interested in having sex with whomever is attractive and available at any one time, that statistically it is likely that every woman comes across men like that, not just you.

“I try to take things slowly and get to know them, perhaps it is not enough time”- when a man tells you (following you asking, if he does not tell you first) that he is okay with having sex with multiple women, and you are not okay with being with a man who does this- then you don’t need more time to get to know him; you already know enough to make a decision.

“Honestly I do not know what to ask”- you can ask him all kinds of questions: if he plans to never have a long-term relationship, if he plans to never get married and have children.. You can ask him what he likes most about (any) woman, what is it that he likes about you.

anita