Dear Sarah:

The benefit about what you asked him and what you told him is that you are making it not-fun for him. He wanted to have some fun with a younger woman, to have an exciting sexual affair. But what he is getting instead is a nervous, conscientious woman asking him questions and worrying about his wife’s feelings. Excellent job on your part, to rain in his parade, so to speak (whether you meant to do it, or not).

“He was like ok. and said he isn’t angry”- I hope this means that he is giving up on seeking fun with you.

anita