Dear Anna:

On Dec 31, I wrote to you: “I think/ guess that he wants to keep you interested in him as a bf so that you will continue to be excited and invested in the interactions with him, being an enthusiastic audience to his stories, etc., but he does not want to be your boyfriend. He is interested in a feature of a bf-gf relationship, not in a bf-gf relationship”, and you wrote: “You know what… you are totally right. I think there is something wrong. I am going to try distancing myself in the new year and see how things go. I will try to act cold too and see as well.”.

On New Day he told you that he is thankful for you, that he doesn’t need anyone close to him because he has you, and that he will always be there for you as you are always there for him. These words melted your heart, and, you are “unable to act cold”-

– no reason to act cold, Anna! Act hot, so to speak- meaning after he tells you these sweet things that melt your heart, ask him .. hotly: then why don’t you want to be my boyfriend???

Yes, ask him that hot question. It will probably freeze him because he wants to keep you interested in him, that is all, according to my best understanding, at this point.

anita