Dear Tee:

You are welcome. I can almost  hear your pain as I read your words. I am sorry that you are hurting.

When you shared about your childhood, I was reminded of parts of mine: I too lived in a very small 1-bedroom apartment, in a poor neighborhood, but that was not what I remember to be painful. What I remembered that was very painful were the fights, the screaming, the threats, the violence inside that one-bedroom apartment. I too “wanted.. to be loved”, like you, but I was also afraid of (and angry at) people and relationships, having associated both with pain, not with love.

You wrote that you walked away from your boyfriend because he’s “unsure about starting a family”. You didn’t talk with him about family and children when you met him, and through the four years of the relationship?

anita

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