Hey Anita,

I just wanted to report back here because you were kind enough to help out and I am guessing folks don’t always let you know how situations play out.  Anyway, much to my surprise, I did actually hear from my friend.

After the last time I had emailed her, about a week before Christmas, I had been checking every couple of days for a response and after not receiving one I just assumed it might be awhile. As it turns out,  she  had responded even during the time we were going back and forth here.

In a nutshell,  her response was that she appreciated the effort I was putting in to maintaining the friendship and she said that for the past several months almost all of her focus has been on her kids and her new business. She said she has not really been communicating with anyone and that even her best friend had asked what the heck was going on with her. An interesting thing she pointed out was that a business associate had told her she was making a mistake staying in her marriage  because she could die tomorrow but her response was that this was precisely why she was staying – so she wouldn’t miss the time with her kids. The rest of the email was just the normal banter we used to always engage in before.  I did respond to her and I think I will give her a call maybe in the next couple of weeks  to hopefully take things out of the email world.  With all of this said, however, I still think there is a missing “piece” here and it relates specifically to our friendship.

What really reminded me of this was about a day after I responded to her, a Facebook Memory from a year ago popped where I had done a post regarding Friendship and how those change sometimes and you have to move on. Her comment on that post was something to the effect of “I haven’t heard from you recently – should I be worried?” “Recently” probably meant I hadn’t called, or texted, her in three days at most. So clearly something pretty significant changed with her which made her go from worrying something was wrong with our friendship after not talking for a few days to her being okay not talking to me for five months.

Anyway, I am sure at some point I will have some answers but I am not going to push for those right now.