Dear Janet:

You are welcome, and you are definitely not alone. I, for one, was very unassertive, unfortunately for me. I was too scared to assert myself and too spaced out/ confused, when it was time for me to assert myself. I knew what I should have said and done after it the situation ended (and not in my favor).

When you see this young woman again, maybe all you should do is stand close to her, face to  face, your eyes looking into her eyes,  and say a few strong words to her, that and nothing more, then walk away. What would those words be, if you were to do as I just suggested?

(I will be away from the computer for a while).

anita