Dear Ryan:

You are welcome. “Perhaps it wasn’t so much her but my work in therapy that allowed me to feel so open and comfortable around her? She was safe and welcoming”- it was probably both, therapy and her welcoming attitude. Therapy probably made you more receptive and reactive to her welcoming attitude.

“…. how nice she was, and how comfortable I felt with”- the context of the nice and comfortable was sitting in nice restaurants, being served with good food and alcoholic drinks: do not underestimate the nice-and-comfortable affects of good food and alcohol.. and that of a hot tub combined with alcohol.

I still feel sad about her answer, disappointed. I was hoping that having you in her bed all night, being close… meant something to her more than it did. Or did it, I don’t know. If it did, she has let it go, it seems.

(I will be away from the computer for a while).

anita