Dear Boris:

You wrote: “There’s the old saying, ‘Perception IS reality,’ which is not far off base”- I disagree: this saying is far off base. Perception Feels like reality, would be true. Often what we perceive and feel is not true to reality. A person may perceive no gravity, for example, and feel no fear jumping off a cliff, but Gravity is Reality and it will prove the falling person Wrong.

Do you love the woman herself or your mental image of her, you asked earlier: you feel love for your mental image of her. Is your mental image of her true  to who she  is? Because you don’t know her well, probably not: some of the things you perceived about her are true, some are not. If you got to know her further, you would have had the opportunity, over time and communication,  to increase and edit your mental  image of her, making it more and more true to who she is.

Here is my suggestion to you for the purpose of you being less “Dazed and confused”- as you post (when addressing me, at least), don’t give voice to each and every thought that crosses your mind. Instead, slow down and be selective as to what you type. Type/ word your posts in less of an academic/ educated style and more like a younger child would type. Aim at typing from the heart, not from the neck up.

anita