Dear Sarasa:

“His words tell me something else vs his actions. I guess I will never know what his true intentions are”- you can ask him simple questions, clearly and directly. You don’t have to accept his vague statements and answers and keep guessing as to what he means by what he says: you can ask him clarifying questions.

If you ask him clarifying questions, clearly and directly, he may answer or not. If he prefers to be vague, he will probably feel very uncomfortable if confronted with clarifying questions and may choose to not talk to you at all. So, I understand why you may be unwilling to ask him such questions.

anita