Dear Sarasa:

One thing that can help you is to consider and invtestigae the possibility that the reason he was “online all day today chatting with the new girl while talking to (you) at the same time” is that he feels safer this way: if she rejects him, he still has you. In other words, his attachment to you may be about him needing a safety net: someone to be there if and when he is rejected by someone else.

If you are not ready to end the contact with him, then ask him questions, get the information you need to further evaluate your next move. You can ask him some of the questions I suggested, ex: what does he feel for/ wants from you, and what does he feel for/ wants from the other girl?

anita