Dear Janet:

“Men don’t eve ask me out on dates or on a drink as friends because they don’t like what they do see… they barely said hi to me when they passed me in the hallways… I’m not extremely thin, but I exercise and.. take care of my hygiene and make myself look presentable… I had an ex-schoolmate/ friend (female) once tell me that she cannot picture me being intimate with someone because the way I look”-

– I have seen (haven’t you?) all kinds of women being approached by men: very tall women, very short women, very thin women, obese women, morbidly obese women, physically disabled women, mentally disabled women… all kinds of women. But no boy or man has ever approached Janet- question is why?

The only answer I can come up with is that indeed you were not approached because of the way you look: you look scared and very uncomfortable regarding boys/ men, physical intimacy and sex. The schoolmate who told you hat she cannot picture you being intimate with someone, could have meant that she couldn’t picture a scared and very uncomfortable Janet having sex.

anita