Dear Charlotte:

“Is it just me, or is it really difficult to find a quality therapist like you had?”- it’s not just you. I first looked for psychotherapy when I was very young. It was decades later that I found my first quality therapist, and I didn’t know what quality therapy was until I personally experienced it.

“I am also wondering how you felt when you were stopping therapy? Were you nervous about stopping?”- my last session with my therapist was a day or two before I left the state I was living in at the time. When I left therapy and the state, I was equipped with lots of handouts that my therapist gave me during more than two years of therapy, lots of notes that I took during therapy, including homework assignments- lots of material to re-read and further process, plus audios of guided meditations and the saved email correspondence I had with him in between sessions.

When leaving, I carried with me a lot of what the work we did together, and I still communicated with him online for some time after my departure, and so, it was not a traumatic separation. Most importantly, I continued what I refer to as the healing process, part of which is my very participation here, in these forums.

anita