Dear Kate:

I don’t think that you cheated on your then boyfriend when you started having feelings for your friend D. Having feelings is not a crime or a wrong-doing. We feel what we feel and sometimes we are surprised by how we feel because we didn’t plan or expect to feel a certain way. Feelings just happen.

Feelings without actions are not equal to cheating. There is such a thing as wrong-doing, there is no such thing as wrong-feeling.

Did you accept D’s proposal, if I may ask?

anita