Dear Kate;

I am back sooner than I thought. “Yes! It was that concern and thought itself that am I being materialistic which made me think about the situation a lot”- it is fair and responsible (a good thing) for you to consider financial/ materialistic factors when considering a husband, and especially, when considering the father of your future children: it would be irresponsible for you to put your future children into poverty by the choice you make in regard to their father!

Regarding you thinking that asking your boyfriend about the timing of his replies being an intrusion into his privacy- depends how you ask him. If you ask him in an angry, blaming tone, then it is  not a good idea. But if you ask him in a curious tone, just wanting to know, then it is not an intrusion on his privacy: it is your right to know. You can practice a way to ask him that does not sound angry or blaming or intruding  (or not- it is your choice, of course).

anita