Dear Ben:

“I may not have some fundamental genetic flaw… There may be a logical explanation for why I feel the way that I do. My first reaction to that was joy and relief. My second reaction is, What do I do now? My stress and fear are still here, as are all of my oddities and inhibitions”-

– the particular nature and extent of your stress, fear, oddities and inhibitions are still part of you even though you recently gained a logical explanation that you didn’t have before. As a child, your brain/ body adjusted to your childhood by forming particular neurological and chemical habits (involving neurotransmitters, hormones and more) that create your particular experience of stress, fear, oddities and inhibitions.

For a person needing significant emotional healing, whatever logical explanation and understanding  you gain can not make a dent in the long-established neuro-chemical habits of the brain and body. Here is a very simplified image to make my point: let’s day your brain is the size of the computer screen you are looking at right now. Your recently acquired logical explanation is the size of 1 square millimeter at one of the corners of the screen. It is only a beginning.

Emotional healing goes beyond logic and thought because life is about living, not about merely thinking. Therefore, it will take making changes to your daily routine, taking on certain new practices and activities, making better choices in all areas of your life, and a lot of time, persistence, rest and patience.

anita