Thanks TeaK for your insight. Your right – things came to a head and I can’t unsee what he’s become. I also feel responsible for failures in the relationship – not all, but I have my own culpability in how I responded to things. I have my own shortcomings and I think those things run deeper than I would like them to. Also thanks Kimita for sharing your story. 20 years is a long time to walk away and start something new. That must have been hard. I’m trying to reset and it’s hard because I love the man that I started with – not the one who I ended with. And maybe the one that I started things with wasn’t the real one but those feelings were real and hard to untangle. It’s really hard to hit reset. Good for you for getting there. I’m still just focused on making it through one day at a time right now.