Dear natie:

From my first reading of your original post, it looks like you cheated on your boyfriend with a woman, and in your mind and heart it was the worst thing you could do. But in his mind and heart, it was not a big deal, or at least, it was way less of a big deal than it was for you.

Fast forward 8 months, he wants to move back to the home country, and he wants  you to move back there as well. You don’t want to, so he uses the past cheating as a negotiation tool: I did this for you (forgave you), now you do this for me (move back home).

Did I understand correctly?

anita