Dear Lily:

Accountable!

“it always makes me feel insecure, asking myself if I was rude or too friendly or fake. I guess this overthinking is what makes it stressful”- when you notice such a thought occurring to you (ex., I was rude), think of it as an itch that better you don’t scratch (by re-thinking it), try to endure the anxiety in not scratching it as you move on to a thought about something practical that is going on.

“I need to work harder!”- okay, but don’t be hard on yourself while you are working harder (to me, the “!” feels a bit like a whip coming down on you).

Today it is cooler here, so my walk will be more pleasant. Good night, Lily!

anita