Dear Emy:

“Three years  ago, I started to have recurring dreams  about someone I don’t know personally… What I sense is very vivid… I have cords of attachment with this man… it lives inside of me in a vivid way and it’s just so strange. It never stops… Like it’s real… I don’t like  what I sense about him in this present life. I meant how he is inside of him. I try to protect myself from his energy. I’m easily overwhelmed with emotions and it’s not good for me.  I am emotionally compromised by nature“-

My thoughts: when a woman is easily overwhelmed with emotions in a bad way (“it’s not good for me”), she avoids the situations that cause her overwhelming emotions. If in-real-life possibly-romantic interactions with men overwhelm her in a bad way, causing her to experience too much fear, and/ or hurt, anger and overall distress, then the woman will avoid those irl situations.

Avoiding romantic and other social irl situations, the woman gets lonely: she still wants loving interactions in her life, so she dreams/ fantasizes about such interactions, either in direct ways  (she herself is involved in the imagined love story), or in indirect ways (another woman is involved in the imagined love story/ “his first love”). In her dreams/ fantasies, she gets to feel what she doesn’t get to feel in real-life (“very vivid… like it’s real”).

But then, when her emotions within her dreams and fantasies overwhelm her, she wants to protect herself from those overwhelming emotions by preventing the dreams and fantasies from happening again. She tries to stop the dreams/fantasies in two ways: (1) she tries to change the  image of the man in her dreams/ fantasies from an image of a desirable man to an image of an undesirable man (“I don’t like  what I sense about him in this present life. I meant how he is inside of him. I try to protect myself from his energy“), and (2) she thinks that she may be on a spiritual mission, and that if she finds out the spiritual goal of the mission, and then fulfill it, she will be free from the overwhelming emotions connected to her dreams/ fantasies (“I thought to contact his first love to… free myself.. This is all very new to me. Honestly, I don’t know even if I  normally  can believe it… maybe.. there’s a kind of spiritual mission”).

anita