Dear canary:

You are welcome. You wrote: “In the beginning (5 months) of our relationship I was not anxiously attached to my partner. I.. was working on my treatment for depression & anxiety“-

– the anxiety you experienced in regard to your attachment to your ex five months into the relationship (“anxiously attached to my partner”) is not separate from the anxiety (“depression & anxiety”)  you experienced in the first 4 months of the relationship, for which you were receiving treatment.

“I’m not sure how to relieve the anxious attachment towards my ex”-

– because your anxiety regarding to your attachment to your ex is not separate from your anxiety in the first 4 months of the relationship (and before you met him), working on your overall anxiety is key. Can you tell me what treatment you receive for your anxiety (“I.. was working on my treatment for depression and anxiety”), and otherwise elaborate on your anxiety that is not related to your ex?

anita